Women in relationships spend hour after hour analyzing and worrying about their partner’s past relationships.

No matter how much we trust our significant other, and no matter how long we have been together, the subject of past relationships will always be a sensitive topic.

It seems that there is always that one girl who managed to captivate him during some period in his past. She becomes the enemy and the doubt begins to fill our minds. What if we are never able to fill her shoes? What if he never loves us like he loved her?

The very idea that the man we are with was once in love with, or attracted to, someone else causes immense jealousy and worry. What makes it all worse is the idea that even when we are with him in person, his thoughts could easily be with someone else.

So perhaps the question really is: Is the relationship over? And more importantly: Is he over her?

Some people say that a relationship is never truly over, and I would say that I tend to agree with that. There will always be that heart-pounding moment when you run into your ex unexpectedly, and all the past feelings come rushing back.

There is something about a past relationship that sticks with you, even after the relationship is over. Does that ever go away? Are we worrying over nothing, or is there really something to be concerned about?

This seems like a never-ending circle of problems and worries. It all comes down to our ability to let go and trust him. Rather than wondering what they had together, we should instead focus on making what we have the best experience possible.

Being able to accept the relationship for what it is between the two of you, minus any exes would be the greatest stress reliever available. Yet, being able to blindly accept the past of someone we love is a long shot for me and I’m assuming most women.

But the line has to be drawn somewhere.

When does it reach the point that we obsess over the past so much that there is no room for the present? Could it be that while trying to frantically save our relationship from the horrible exes, we are also hindering it? Especially in women, emotion often overrides any sort of rational thought.

Perhaps in order to maintain our relationship and sanity, we need to get in touch with our rational side, that somehow believes our significant other when he says that there is nothing between him and his former girlfriends.

Although emotion gives us passion, desire and love, rationality is not a factor that should be ignored in a relationship.

When it comes down to it, rationality may be all that we have to keep our relationships and ourselves together.